Hi ,

Let’s talk about something that quietly shapes every romantic connection you have—what your unconscious self calls it attachment style. As I have said a few times before I'm no longer a proponent of this theory as it really isn't a condition but an unskilful mode of consciousness of those who haven't done the inner work.

Many women and coaches use this as an excuse to enable dysfunctional behaviors in themselves or their clients.

If you’ve ever found yourself repeating the same patterns in love, feeling anxious, distant, or even stuck in a cycle of push and pull, you’re not alone and as I said as you grow in your spiritual journey this habit can be diminished or curtailed altogether.

Understanding your unconscious attachment style and see it for what it truly is is the first step toward healing old wounds and creating relationships that feel safe, nourishing, and deeply connected.

Anxiety in dating and relationship is usually rooted in deep distrust of oneself, that she is not good enough for a man to want to be with without her having to jump through the hoops trying to convince him that she's all that.

Well, girlfriend, you're ALL that if you just stop trying so hard.  Believe in yourself so he can mirror that self-trust into putting you on the pedestal because your self-confidence is truly magnetic.

I've been working privately with a few clients as of late dealing with various personal issues.  I truly enjoy working one on one with women so i can dedicate a big chunk of time helping them through their blind spots and in turn ironing the kinks that keep popping up in their love lives.

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Imagine a full month of having a genie in a bottle that you can have access to to help guide you every step of the way.  This package is especially suitable who needs intensive resolution to their pressing relationship problems, for example if you're in a brink of a divorce or breakup for repeated dysfunctions in your relationship.

This kind of support that not only provides peace of mind but also a solution to your chronic problem is PRICELESS.  Respond to this email with cc to orpheus218@gmail.com if you're interested and I can send you an invoice.

Now, let's cary on with our very subject this week.

A lot of this anxiety, self-doubts and confusions are of course self-induced through lifetime habits of anticipating the worst and mulling on scenarios that only manifest through the self-fulfilling prophecy.

Recently, Maya shared her struggle with me: despite her best efforts, she kept attracting emotionally unavailable partners. She felt needy one moment and withdrawn the next, never quite trusting that love could last. Through our work together, she discovered that her anxious-avoidant attachment style was driving her reactions and expectations in love. Once she started her own journey inward, everything began to shift. She brought this tendency into conscious awareness and learned a new repertoire of response so allowing herself to grow out of her comfort zone (well, perhaps more aptly her discomfort zone).

She learned to soothe her triggers, communicate her needs, and—most importantly—feel secure in herself regardless of her partner’s behavior. The result? She became less anxious, more open, and her relationships blossomed in ways she never imagined.

What Are Attachment Styles (and Why Do They Matter)?

Your attachment style according to mainstream theory is shaped in childhood and influences how you relate to others as an adult. Whether you lean anxious, avoidant, secure, or a mix, these patterns show up in how you communicate, set boundaries, and respond to intimacy. As I no longer buy this theory, I can only say it's partially true because reality is a lot of what's called as attachment style is propelled by lack of options and self-induced neuroses (refusing to see reality as it is).

The good news is, hence, attachment styles are not destiny—they can be understood and healed as I have proven it many times with my clients.

Actionable Steps to Heal Your Attachment Style

• Recognize Your Patterns: Take note of your emotional reactions in relationships. Do you fear abandonment or feel smothered? Awareness is the first step to change.
• Practice Self-Soothing: When triggers arise, pause and breathe. Remind yourself that your feelings are valid, but they don’t have to dictate your actions.
• Communicate Clearly When Necessary: Share your needs without blame however constant need sharing can be perceived as needy and being hard to please so again there is no shortcut to inner work. “I feel anxious when I don’t hear from you” invites connection when done sparingly, while accusations create distance.
• Lean Back and Observe: Give your relationships space to breathe. Notice what happens when you stop trying to control outcomes or “fix” your partner.
• Invest in Your Inner Work: True change comes from within. Programs like Journey Inward are designed to help you understand and heal the roots of your attachment style, so you can show up as your most secure and magnetic self.

Why Healing Attachment Styles Is the Missing Link

If you find yourself stuck in the same arguments, feeling misunderstood, or struggling to trust, it’s a sign that it’s time to go deeper. Healing your unconscious attachment style is the foundation for authentic communication, healthy boundaries, and lasting connection. Without it, even the best relationship advice falls flat.

This is the heart of what I teach in Journey Inward. When you commit to your own growth, you become less bothered by external drama and more anchored in your own peace. Your relationships reflect this inner shift—suddenly, you’re less reactive, more understanding, and able to create real intimacy without losing yourself.

When you join Journey Inward, you’ll receive a 30-minute diagnosis coaching session (valued at $699) or two months of fan subscriptions with access to over 331 classes and monthly live coaching. It’s the most affordable and supportive way to get ongoing guidance for wherever you are on your journey.

If the Facebook link doesn’t work for you, you can also use this membership link (3 month minimum).

If you’re ready to break old cycles and become the woman who is both loving and unshakeable, now is the time to start your journey inward. Don’t wait for another year to pass you by—give yourself the gift of self-understanding, and watch every relationship in your life transform.

Love,
Katarina

P.S. If you have a question or want to know which class is right for you, reply to this email with cc to orpheus218@gmail.com. I’m always here to help you find your way back to yourself.