My client Sally is a successful opera singer and her desire in romance is just to be together with the man she adores. She's in her mid 40's, she doesn't want children and she's okay just being in a committed relationship without marriage, though she won't refuse a ring from her
EUM of 3 years either. What she wasn't quite prepared was the fact that after almost a decade of divorce he's still in this custody battle (4 children) with his ex who got him to sign a legal agreement not to bring another woman around the children.
What to do when you're dating a man whose family drama with his ex seems to never end?
"Hi Kat, I'm getting real impatient with my EUM for the mixed messages. What to do when he gets overwhelmed again and tends to be emotionally distant and not wanting intimacy.Is he done and waiting for me to just walk away? So many mixed messages. He invited me on a work trip and we fought and since then its been not great. But for this weekend he booked us a hotel for our date a little getaway but then on the same day he also says that he can't make future plans beyond what we have planned for the end of June early July and he does not look like to talk about future life plans he just seems
like he can't commit to any partnership and it's been three years now...He also is going on a co-ed retreat and did not invite me. Its in August. I am not happy about that but doing my best to let it go. He is on Full time Dad duty this week while lazy ex
wife on a vacation, so he is stressed."That's from Sally who has been with me for a few years now. She was upbeat the past few months because they had been doing great and she posted many pictures of them being together on FB.
But common with this kind of men,
they're
fading at times when life gets stressful which I think it is the case -as life does feel harder and harder to many of us, doesn't it.
Lucky now she has a genie in a bottle by signing up for my
private coaching that comes with Voxer/telegram support so I can transmit messages of hope and empowerment with harmonious alignment with
reality. This kind of healing support from the Awakened One is PRICELESS.
Without my guidance you'll project your own insecurities into this situation making it worse than it needs to be.
Being so invested in this you can't be objective and you will
tend to express your emotions in a way that will shut him down even more instead of wanting to come closer to you which makes you even more agitated and resentful so it perpetuates
the cycle of toxicity in a feedback loop and this is why my guidance is sorely needed.
I provide you a window
into his mind and heart. Not everything needs to be interpreted as an emergency situation. Getting fed up and dwelling on it magnifies the problem. A lot of times the heavy feelings shift when you just take your mind somewhere else. Isn't it true??
This is why being whole is the key to
entering a relationship without much storm. Too invested, too attached, too involved cause the confusion and this is why many women find it hard to respond in a measured way.
How to dial down your emotional investment so he has room to breathe? That's the key.
Or when is the time just
to throw in the towel as you are feeling you're settling now and it doesn't feel good?
Neither option is wrong. In fact there is no right or wrong in this, it's about what serves and doesn't serve you anymore and everyone is different in their journey.
A lot of times
you just need to let him be but when your mind races 100 mph, it's a tall order. All you want to do is to reach out to him and ask him why why why (insert all your anguish here). You want him to comfort and reassure you but he's depleted emotionally himself, he needs
to go into his cave and build his testosterone level so he can pursue you again.
And that is what happened when Sally got the much needed balanced and objective perspective through
the one-on-one coaching that comes with a 2 week Voxer/telegram support (1 hr sessions that can be divided into 2 30 min sessions plus 2 week Telegram support). I'm guiding her to do what feels right to her despite the outcome.
The generic advice will be "dump him!" There is no consideration to a more complex picture in which there really is no right or wrong side to
this situation.
It's juts a mismatch of readiness due to life circumstances which happens more often than not to mid-life dating especially.
In the last class in the
fan subscriptions and
monthly membership I talked about a very important subject that might resonate with you and your predicament: Why Can't You Feel At Home In The Now Future
Driven Mind Wants To Know.
So I asked Sally this question as well. Would she die if she doesn't get to see him during the time he spends time with his children? No she said. So the challenge is how to not obsess about him and she needs to revisit what I teach regarding the mind in
Journey Inward.
But of course I totally get the need for a happy balance between surrendering to the process and taking care of your own needs without guilt, shame and apology. You know what that means, right? If not ask me.
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The answer is most likely because like the vast majority of people on earth you
live in your head instead in the now. Your reality is being narrated in your head through
your limited perception and thus constant projections so you never really learn a state of sweet surrendered or living not going against the grain. You have no idea what that is or
what that looks like in the first place!
When you are busy in your head with your own unresolved issues you are unable to look at reality square in the face because you take it as an affront to you instead of treating it from a neutral place. Neutral means unattached as you don't treat it as a crutch. People who believe they need crutches to be whole or to be okay with themselves are living in the illusions of a dreamy mind.
This is a state of confusion and there is no
solution to the problem of a confused unconscious mind. You have
to unconfuse yourself first.
You can listen to the rest of the teaching by subscribing to the
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