Neediness repulses men, right?

True but....

Truth is - Guys want you to need them.

Do you know the right way to be "needy" which actually makes a man's feel obsessively and
spontaneously "LOVESTRUCK" by you.

The Drama Method

Hi ,

Here's a post from Janice in our ladies group (you can add me on FB to be included)

"Hi,

Just joined to the group after breaking up with my bf for the sixth time during one year... It has been both terrible and wonderful, but as a result here I am again with a beautiful broken heart. 

I have only 1 question for you: Do you think it is normal that a guy gets angry every time he sees you crying? And naturally, it only gets worse when you try to explain him why... This was the biggest issue that in the end even brought ME thinking about breaking up. I cannot just "drop" an issue like my bf does, I have to express it and feel that he understands (even if he probably doesn't). My bf used to think that I was trying to manipulate him with my tears, even when I explained that it certainly IS NOT LIKE THAT. I also have some anxiety issues.  He used to say that "I just want to be depressed/act like a disabled person". Normal reaction for a guy or not?

The anxiety is just something that I have had since I started dating my first boyfriend when I was 16, but has nothing to do with the relationship itself (not directly, at least). In general I can get anxious about almost anything.  Anyhow now it's going better, but what was always pissing me off was the lack of comfort and understanding coming from my bf.

And the crying thing... I think I don't cry anywhere as much as with my boyfriends! It's weird, normally I'm kind of a poker face and not so girly girl. When I'm with a guy I want to feel that I can be open and show him everything because he is the closest person in my life. And it seems to work backwards, hah."

If you've been following me for a while you'll know that anxiety is the number one killer of attraction.  Both my programs (Journey Inward and Leaning Back and Cultivating Feminine Mystique Workshop) are geared toward curing anxiety.  

Janice expects her man to act like a parent to a child (appeasing, soothing her, etc) or a therapist (listening to each and every one of her problems).  I've been there with my ex too and no I didn't get what I wanted.  And the expectations that he should and would "if he loved me" soured our connection over time.

So expecting your partner to be your therapist or caretaker is just as detrimental as acting like a mother or therapist to him.  Neither should have a place in relationship if you want a fully functional and healthy dynamic between the two of you.

Work on your emotional issues yourself first.  Don't use your partner as a dumpster to all your emotional problems.  Real vulnerability takes inner work to manifest as a bonding experience.  Don't mistake it with chronic neediness and anxiety which is the case in Janice's case.  No surprise he doesn't feel bonded toward her with her constant crying.  Quite the opposite he feels responsible for her unhappiness.

Now, having said that, there is a kind of drama that actually hooks your man to bond and fall head over heels for you.  You will discover something called the "DRAMA METHOD" when you click on the link below:

The Drama Method

And when you will use it in your life...  You will feel your body roaring with an intense amount of joy, peace and satisfaction.  Because now you will witness the same man who got distant...suddenly comes back to you, almost on his knees, and wants you to forgive him for his ridiculous behavior.

Follow this link to discover how...

The Drama Method

Love,

Katarina