Yup the expectations make them sad and upset.  

Some of my clients get really special treatment from the guys they are dating and you know what...it's only because they don't expect it!  

Here's from Holly who 5 months ago just broke up from her ex and is now dating a guy who is so white hot for her: "Update from Vegas: Wow! Think I'm getting a lesson on what it's like to be pursued & adored. Limo ride, champagne, & roses from airport to hotel- we are at MGM Grand Tower in a suite w a view of Vegas, best steak dinner I've ever had, tickets to Laugh Factory last night, & he taught me how to play craps.  it's just been wonderful. I've never had anyone pay so much attention to me, & make sure every detail perfect for me. I'm happy. Enjoying every moment. Hopefully pictures soon."

If you are so broken hearted today, try not to be by shifting your perspective.  This is a day filled with pressure and expectations for most guys.  You see, even my boyfriend said "This is a bullshit holiday."  But he did get me pink tulips and a balloon only because "our woman likes it."

Say he hadn't done it, I would have been okay too cause I know he loves me.  Everyday is like Valentine's for us.  That's the sort of relationship you should aim.

My client Kellie who just got her beloved back isn't even seeing him tonight thanks to the weather (they live in NY) so she would join me in the class 1 b of Journey Inward tonight at 7 pm EST (yup, I'm not doing anything special other this class tonight either cause Joe is working).  She has received so many questions through emails since her appearance last week.  So bring your questions tonight by signing up for this "get-ex-back edition" of Journey Inward.

Last week we ran out of time since she was telling her inspiring story so we're going to finish the second half of the class tonight (and you can listen to the instant replay of last week's class upon signing up).  This is a much better way to spend your Valentine's rather than being depressed about it.

I have so many pieces of good news from our growing community.  One of them is from my client Daisy who just got claimed by a guy she adored only after a month.  It is her story:

"Hi Kat,

I just came back from a fantastic weekend getaway with my new man. Every moment was wonderful. He was very loving and attentive, concerned about meeting my every need and desire, making sure I had a fantastic time and I did. It's hard to believe that we met only a short time ago and that he has already claimed me. Only two short months ago it felt like I would never meet anyone I could have such a deep connection with, but I see now that all the hard work I have been doing has paid off.

I discovered your ebook back in October, after breaking up with my EUM. I was devastated by the end of that relationship and wanted to know how I could get him back. More importantly, I recognized that a pattern was playing out in my love life and knew I needed to change it. I couldn't understand why I kept dating the same guy wearing different pants. Reading your book made me see the relationship with my EUM very clearly, especially my role in its demise. I had read David Deida but never understood how masculine-feminine energy dynamics were playing out in my relationships specifically. I thought I was such a feminine woman because I wore high heels to take out the garbage. I saw myself as accepting, warm and receptive, yet I had no idea how much I was leaning forward with my anxious energy, my mothering and smothering, my over giving and overall over-functioning in the relationship.

Your group first introduced me to the concept of raising your frequency, and that you basically attract what you are. I'd had no idea that the reason I kept dating these emotionally unavailable guys and had even been married to one was because I had this characteristic in myself. Just this simple recognition was enough for me to start making profound changes within myself.

I won't lie--I worked really hard. I spent a couple hours every day on the process and the various exercises and learnings that went along with it. I took the Journey Inward and Leaning Back workshops, which were invaluable steps on my journey--especially Leaning Back, as it showed me exactly what actions I could take to turn things around. I recall that in one of the classes you referred to me as one of your most committed students and I believe I was. I knew I had to change but also recognized that if I changed my behaviour superficially the results would not be long lasting. I had read a lot of self help and relationship books in my life, but nothing ever worked for me until I started doing deep inner work. Between October and December I cried every day, but I kept working on myself even when my mind seemed stuck in the same obsessions about my EUM. I knew I had to keep going.

I tried to get out there and date but no one remotely suitable was showing up. Most of the men who were messaging me were at least twenty years younger, looking to hook up--which I wasn't into. I kept working while staying open to opportunities at the same time; I just didn't go looking for them. One night I checked my online profile and there was a message from a man that really grabbed my attention. I felt this little pop while I read his profile. It was as if he had written it especially for me. We met a few days later and the connection was instantaneous.

Ever since my divorce from a controlling, domineering alpha male, I have been attracted to guys who are more of a sensitive artist type, or who work in helping professions like counseling or teaching. They are givers and pleasers, and have made it easy for me to step in and try to drive the bus. Now that I'm much more grounded in my feminine energy, I have been able to lean back and let my new man do all the planning and executing, without my trying to do his job for him. It's been so liberating and I feel very feminine and cared for in his presence.

This man is the most emotionally available man I have ever known, and I know he is in my life now because I am more emotionally available now as well. I recognized what was causing me pain in my life and began healing it. The old me would have run for the hills when he started expressing his feelings or tried to claim me so fast--I would have thought him as needy and clingy. He's not, he just really likes me and let's me know. Being with him has made me feel cherished and adored for the first time in my life and to see that I deserved more than what my EUM was giving me.

It's early in my relationship, so who knows how it's all going to turn out, but I am confident if that this man isn't the one, someone even better will come along. I'm no longer the crumb grabber, dependent on approval from a man to make me feel whole. I have everything I need within me to attract a great guy and keep him investing in me. Thanks Kat, for your great group and the support you give your clients to become their best feminine selves."

Getting into a relationship is actually easy. Heal your anxiety, emotional unavailability and LEAN BACK. That's all Daisy did. You will have a boyfriend before you know it. Sign up for both my Journey Inward and Leaning Back workshop and you will get 45 min bonus skype session with me (VALUE: $100). Plans are available too.

And remember if you want a really great deal to really learn the core principles of my miraculous method that get all these women rave about, it's not too late to get my Valentine's Day Specials.  Learn about these magic secrets tonight at A DEEPLY DISCOUNTED RATE instead of being all upset and lonely.

Love,

Katarina