Why Doesn't He Like To Keep In Touch As Much As I Do?

Published: Mon, 02/17/14

Adjusting To A Guy's Style And Pace Of Communication Is Better Than Telling Him What To Do
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Hi,

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Now, I receive this question a lot:  "If you were chatting with a guy via instant messenger (not text) and he just disappeared mid-convo without a good night or goodbye what would you do/say anything? This happened last night with J."

We women often feel that men don't communicate enough during the courtship phase or early stage of dating even after he declares his feelings toward us as in the case with the woman above.  

We start using our own standards on how to communicate with men and have expectations around it.  Because of the expectations we start mulling in our heads and feel disrespected, unloved, etc when men don't exactly communicate the way we women do.  Cause of the gremlins in their heads we begin to feel and act anxious.  We either act passive-aggressive or blatantly tell them how we feel and that we want more communication or we want certain rules to be obeyed like "no disappearing during mid-convo" above.

The guys pick on the vibe and get even less and less interested in doing what we want and we get more and more anxious until finally we explode cause we feel more and more neglected.

Aren't you familiar with the vicious cycle?

The truth is men don't always want to communicate as much as we do.  They have a different style and outlook on communication.  IM, FB, Texting, Tweeting, whatsapp, Instagram and all sorts of ways they can be reached these days just put them on the spot and make them feel pressured that they need to communicate all the time.  

Just because they are "on" on those applications, doesn't it mean they are up to talking around the clock.  What about you adjusting to that instead of feeling insulted by their silence or lack of response?

What about turning off your applications as well instead of constantly snooping around to find out if they are "on" or if they have read your messages (this is why you are often thrown in the emotional tailspin).  What about let them wonder about you for a change?

Learn more about what truly works with men:

How To Read A Man


Love,
Katarina