Tomorrow is the first class of Cycle 4 Journey Inward.  I have great news to share in the class but I'm going to share it with you here first.

I know you love get-ex-back stories and this one will inspire you so much.  Kylie came to me in July and I read her story in a teleclass I shall share with you hopefully soon (yes it took place in July but there was some technical issue I need to address still before I can broadcast it).

At the time she just broke up with her boyfriend of 5 years because he wasn't ready to marry her.  He just finalized his divorce in November the previous year.  She was so upset since she wanted to start a family soon before she got too old and though he didn't mind having a family with her, her values dictated that she couldn't do it out of wedlock.

Understandable, right?

She felt she had waited patiently enough.  So she gave him the ultimatum and he chose to let her go.

It's not that he didn't love her or treasure her but ultimatum is emasculating to a man.  Men don't respond to emasculation.  They respond to honey.  

Yes, honey.

So after the teleclass she embarked on my newly launched group coaching Journey Inward.  If you listen to the first class, you will hear her shaky voice depicting her anguish and heartache, especially when she found out that he just put up a profile on a dating site.

She then resigned-up with every cycle.  This will be her 4th and she will tell her story how she got him back and how their relationship is now stronger than ever.

I knew she would soften with time.  The entire time I didn't try to tell her to give up her desire for marriage since she was the only one who could make such a decision herself.  I was just guiding her to question her own belief, values and boundaries...to really scrutinize them if they truly make her happy.

She found out on her own what she truly wanted and it was them back together.  Their relationship was the relationship she truly wanted and cherished.  They have been married and divorced, so it's not that it would be her first and apart from the marriage certificate, they were pretty much like a married couple already.

They started talking again just a few months ago but things were still rocky because she expected him to just drop everything and get back on the relationship train like nothing ever happened. I told her, he can't just switch it on and off as per her wish like that. And funny thing is he incidentally told her exactly that as well.

Last week she wrote me:

"Katarina, things have been near perfect. I am in Dallas now with my son, my father and my ex husband touring schools and interviews for my son so my focus has been on this mainly thus leaning back without trying lol.

Eric is behaving well. Texting, calling, seems to be no games. He planned a trip to Cabo for March ( or April) I forgot. So, this plus other actions and words show me he is in this all the way now. So, no drama. Thank God.

I've been so busy I haven't called or initiated text with him in two weeks. It's allllllllll him.

FYI, I let it all go. All of it. Nothing left. Light as a feather.

So far, you're right. You ask for nothing and you get everything. One day I am going to be a success story for your book!!!!

I was feeling all odd two weeks about, remember? It's alllll changed.

I let go of any sort of plan. The tables turned. Now he's the woman asking all the questions trying to see a plan about what we are doing, how this will work with me moving. I told him that too. I encouraged him to let go also. He was missing the great moments in life because he was worried about the future. Everything will fall into place.

Just a few weeks ago I started back and worried about him getting rid of these women. Then you reminded me. I let go of that too. I don't think about it and we became even closer as a result. He naturally reassures me by how he acts and what he says. I trust him now. I realize they are nothing. I'm the focus and the real deal for him. It's very obvious. It's a beautiful thing you know.

I knew it wouldn't be long. I just told you one week ago how I missed him being his old self.

Then last night he said it...like clock work.

I was a mental case last July when I met you. Now I realize I was demanding everything. All about me. My time line. Looking back, he was doing the best he could with what he had. He was just finalizing his divorce 8 months before. Of course he wasn't prepared after an 18 year marriage failure.

I remember you said, "what more do you want?" You already have the whole thing.

I went away to Dallas last week to look at housing and take my son to tour schools. Focusing on myself. A new job that brings me much joy. I was irritated two weeks ago about him not being like he was before, etc. Now, I swear, the thought of those women do not cross my mind I wouldn't check his phone if I could.

Now he's super sweet. Very attentive. Very commit focused. And I know him like a book. He is here now. He thinks long and hard about everything.

Sometimes he has difficulty expressing himself or scared of his feelings. The last few days when I go to hang up the phone, he says now, "tell Hannah I love her" which is my dog who adores him and him to her. He says this though in replacement for I love you, Kylie.

Like I said, I know him like a book. Then tonight we were naked in bed and he was kissing me and he was very serious and said

I just missed you so much.

He's coming back around. I know. He is on the cusp of starting back to saying I love you. I know it.

I let go. Focused on myself. Calm. Opened myself to these racing trips. He's booked a race in Mexico where I am going to meet him there ( his idea). No games. No bullshit

It was just very very sweet. He's back to the old him I loved and remembered. I don't have a care, any expectation. I told him all that awhile ago: I was asking for nothing but one thing: us. Forget the marriage and everything else. Us. 

He seems very relaxed and happy. So, bottom line: don't want. Don't expect, don't mention kids or marriage = get it all. Or close to it. it's good stuff.

The super sincere "I missed you so much" in the moment it was said was just do deep. I can't even explain the feeling. I still want all that. But I'm not scared if I don't get it. That's the difference. I really did let go. Of all. Of it."

Then she wrote me again 2 nights later:

"Tonight: he laid right back to where we left of finally. He said it. I love you. In the most sincerest way. How about that....... you want nothing. You get everything.

Lol. I can't believe it. It took all year long. But so far it's a night and day change.

I now support his hobbies. He does all this high end desert racing I had zero interest in. It's very expensive and I would make comments. He was very defensive about it. That pissed him off. Now, I encourage it. It makes him happy. He asked my opinion about this race in Mexico he was considering. Told me the cost. I replied he should do it. That was a good opportunity someone offered him to use their car. And the price wasn't bad. He was in an accident in this same race last summer. Very bad. So I hated it. But, he's going to do it anyway. So, just go w the flow.

And you should see how he dives right into it with this honey. OMG. It's like math as you said, 2 plus 2 equals 4.

I swear I wish you could have seen his face. He was in SHOCK. I had to tell him I was serious when I said " this is a good opportunity""

There are a few lessons we can learn from Kylie's case which is at the center of my teaching:
1. When you let go of everything, you get everything.

2. Softening of your boundaries is honey to men.  

3. Trusting and accepting your man as he is creates an unbreakable bond between you two.

All these points will be elaborated in great detail in the Journey Inward group coaching.  And when you master this, no man will want to ever get away from you again.  Ever.  

Are you in the same situation as Kylie was just a few weeks ago? Turn that around. I have figured this out down to science what works with men. Sign up for this life-changing program. If you sign up for both Journey Inward and Leaning Back workshop, you will get 45 mins bonus skype session with me (value: $100) so I can coach you one on one on how to deal with your specific situation. 

Both classes will start this weekend, Saturday and Sunday, Feb 8 and 9, 2014.

And as I said Kylie will be in the class as well!  We will hear from her first hand what caused her to change and how easy/difficult it was for her and what really attracted him back.  As one of my avid students, she will not miss every opportunity to speed up her healing process.

If you are in so much pain trying to get your ex back, this is your chance to really know what truly works in attracting the love of your life back  in your arms.

So here again, the two programs you can't afford to miss:

http://katarinaphang.com/products/the-journey-inward/

http://katarinaphang.com/leaning-back-and-cultivating-feminine-mystique-workshop/

Love,

Katarina