November has just started. On the first week alone I have had 4 (yup FOUR) engagement news from my clients. So it has surpassed the average 3 engagements/month within the first week. Expect MANY MORE next month, that
time of year when engagements take place.
That makes it a total 37 engagements this year thus far (and 49 total)!
One of them is Lisa. She shared: "After my birthday dinner we went for a walk in a rose garden where he had a friend set up 52 candles, champagne and rose petals and popped the question!! I truly believe that every woman can find a man who loves her to pieces after all I've been through. Being a part of Kat's
group and changing my attitude on dating has made the difference this time.
THANK YOU! I got tons of LOVE for you and what you do to help women!
I found you after I had already tried other professional like Christian Carter and spent tons of money trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. I had tons of daddy issues and constantly picked the wrong man over and over. Nothing was changing in
me.
I wasted 2 years of trying to make my EUM love me and then found you to try to fix me so that I could get him to love me lol (or so I thought). Once I started the rotation I slowly realized that he was the problem and that I wasn't taking care of and loving myself the right way.
Once I did that it was easy to let someone else love me. My thinking was so screwed up but now I see things
clearly. You taught me to love and respect myself and be strong.
Once I grasped the concept of what you were trying to teach about leaning back, I started to feel more control over my feelings and just sat back letting the right man come along instead of trying to make love happen with the wrong one. It was so simple and easy to grasp I only wish I would have found you sooner!
I wanted to add that he was in my rotation, not so
high on the list...but when I started having real life problems he was the man who was there to listen and made time to be there and that really got my attention!
Thanks again Katarina Phang for keeping it real!!! you're so awesome!"
In less than a year she's over her EUM and engaged to an emotionally available man.
Another one is Shannon. She shared: "Hi wonderful women!
I was asked for some background regarding my history with this group and what brought me here. My relationship history is that I am a single mom with two amazing children. My ExH left me for another woman almost immediately after my son was born. There was another woman and she
was a student at the college that he was teaching at.
No need to fill in the blanks -I was devastated. I am a medical professional who works in the pharmaceutical field and between my schedule and how I was feeling about me, I had no desire to date for almost 2 and a half years.
With some encouragement and a firm push from two of my GFs, we challenged each other to get out of our comfort zone. I reluctantly started
dating again and joined up with an amazing women’s dating group-very similar to this one. I was able to address some of my dating demons early on and to tap into my femininity (heck I barely owned a dress when I first started!), the concept of “mantouraging” (as my dear friend Jenn called it) and finding myself again. I was dating pretty consistently and happily by the time I found Kat’s book on line.
I originally found the book after a situation popped up that I could
not figure out. I was dating someone LD for about 4 dates when-poof-he disappeared. Actually, he did a slow fade. Things were clicking and I could not figure out what had happened. I wanted answers and I was concerned that I was “doing something wrong.”
Kat’s book was an eye opener…and it made sense. Thankfully my former dating coach and current friend had beaten in my head what Kat does with this group….keep your options going, keep dating, keep dating, keep
dating so I was already dating others when this man faded and ironically, that is when my (now) fiancé wandered into my life. So I had already read Kat’s book before he and I started dating.
It had been the most drama free
relationship of my life. Truly. He is alpha in every sense of the word and from our first date, he made it clear that he was interested. I always placed a heavier emphasis on words than actions and after reading the book, I really started observing the
men that I was dating. My man stepped up at every opportunity, made it clear he was courting me, asked for exclusivity early on and handled it beautifully when I said initially that I was not ready. I kept dating and he proved to me that he was special.
The thing that makes this group so special is that by leaning back/mirroring/investing in yourself makes you a winner, someone of high value not because you get a man by a set of rules, regulations, or trickery (pretending to be someone that you are not) but by dealing with your own insecurities, questions, anxiety, etc….until you are truly the person that adds to someone else’s life because you have one of your own.
That when the ebb and flow occurs in your
relationship (and it will, no matter how amazing it starts out), you don’t freak, you don’t push the other person, you don’t try and make something happen. You pause, wait, get back into your own life and passions…and then a man becomes the icing on the cake and not the entire dessert.
The tools that I learned here and the friends that I have made were not because I wanted to get a man but I wanted to deal with my own dynamic that has impacted all
of my relationships for the last 20-25 years. My fiancé just managed to get the best version (and most real) version of me because I finally let go of the anxiety, expectations, and drama.
I sound calm and poised now but I have to laugh…I used to lean forward, look at phone calls/texting to temp check a relationship, fret if I didn’t hear from a man, etc. All of my dating history since I was 18+ until the current day….It makes me really laugh. I can honestly say that
95-98% of the time that I was concerned about an issue…it was my issue and not anything related to a man. It does not mean that my relationship is perfect but when I had the occasional question and needed interpretation of “manspeak” or wanted to freak, this group of women helped.
The audio classes were awesome. I learned something new every time I listened to them. I am a private person by nature so posting is not easy for me. But reading questions and situations from this group made it so much easier to automatically know what I “should do,” not to manipulate a man or anyone I was interacting with but because the person I am now does not crave the drama.
It is not a coincidence that my relationships
with my family are better, I am rocking my work interactions and relationships, and that I trust myself and my judgment. I am so happy I am engaged but if he decides tomorrow that I am not it, I will be more than okay. Because I have a happy me and I feel high value because I act high value. I hope this makes sense!
Mirroring all in itself keeps you from over investing, especially early on when you are first dating. But it keeps you from pulling ahead when time goes by
and your expectations just start to grow. If you are not ahead of him, you don’t have much to worry about!
So did a man bring me to this group…sort of. But I didn’t get my man by doing a certain set of rules. Kat’s book and tools really made me grow and the person he fell in love with is authentic. She really does not flip out. She is calm and collected, warm and passionate. She has boundaries (soft ones but boundaries) but knows which issues require a firm stand (simple words and swift actions) versus things that I can let go.
I will never again confuse an
interested/invested man with someone who keeps me as an option.
I know the difference now and I will never go back. Also-I have been successful in my professional career by aggressively going after what I have wanted. I find it funny now that the more feminine I am, soft spoken, gracious, etc…the more I get accomplished in my dog eat dog world! My boss just commented after a field visit with me that it is the first time she has ever seen
investigators begging a research person to spend more time with them and seeking me out versus me vying for an appointment or to just get in for 5 minutes. It really impressed her because she said that I did it so naturally and gracefully with little or no effort.
So did I expect the engagement? I knew he was moving things forward but I honestly thought I would know when he wanted to do it….I never sent him pictures of a ring, told him my size, hinted at the perfect
proposal…truly nothing. He did it all and truly surprised me.
To some of the newer members….I hope this helps. As a chronic reader, I have read a lot of dating books. But I never dealt with any of my own issues and even if you get the man, you are still going to have
questions that come up and situations to navigate. This group and the resources here help you to cruise through it like a true goddess. The practice you get with every situation will make it more like second nature and even if it feels weird, fake it until you make it.
Thanks again girls-it is like having a sorority of some pretty amazing girls here and we do need to get together to meet face to face. And dance. And
karaoke!"
So what can you learn from these two ladies. What's the commonalities between them two?
Yup, not attaching a to a man who isn't choosing you. A lot of you insist on a guy before he even chooses you. It can't happen that way. It's against nature, that's why it doesn't work.
Choose a guy (guys) who choose you first. If you aren't attracted to guys who
choose you, it's on you. It shows you are an emotionally unavailable woman. You want what is safe and you can't get (cause it's safe).
Work on it. That is what these 2 ladies do and furthermore Shannon was in every one of my programs including the inner work
Journey Inward.
This program will make you realize what is not conscious to you and will open your eyes of the many errors in your past and how to transcend them.
I'd like to take this opportunity as well to announce that tomorrow at 6 pm EST, I will interview my client
Anabelle who just got back with her ex after a 10 month excruciating breakup.
They have been back together for 3 months now and so far so good. You don't want to miss this cause you will learn so much from her how she pulled this off and I will also coach her live on how to work on her occasional anxiety and fear that the
other shoe will drop again.
Did you just break up with your guy? Are you in pain wondering if he will ever come back? Or is he talking with you now but hasn't reclaimed you back? Or are you just back together but you're still shaky from the experience? Then you don't want to miss this call: "How to Get Him Back and How Not to Be The One-Down After He Gets Back."
You want real relationship advice that truly works like no other from a top relationship coach the world has to offer with
a solid track record to back her up? This is the most affordable program I offer and there is no contract so you can cancel anytime and you get 2 classes/month and a $10 OFF for all
all previous enlightening classes in the monthly membership.
Get my coaching
live with a price way cheaper than an hour therapy (that might or might not work).
See you in the call and you can get my coaching
LIVE!
Love,
Katarina
PS: What are you doing Saturday, December 19? Mark your calendar and
let's meet up. Let's have fun and you might also meet a cute single guy at the party!
