How was your Father's Day? It was special for me because I have my father visiting this Father's Day. But we didn't grow up celebrating Mother's Day or Father's Day so there is no expectation on these days for us.
And besides everyday is Father's Day in our household since
he's been here. I feed him every day. I cook most days and serve the food for him. So yeah he's getting special treatment already! So "nothing special" on Father's Day other than how he's been being treated already every day.
But we jumped in the pool, I cooked his lunch and Joe BBQed for us all for dinner. It was a great day!
I'm just feeling blessed I still get to enjoy time with him privately. We take
our morning or afternoon walks in the idyllic neighborhood often. He does it twice a day. I join him when I can.
I don't need Father's Day to express how much I care for him cause I do it every day. It's the same with my mother. I take them globe trotting every few months since late 2014.
In America everything seems to have to be compulsory. It's the same with Valentine's Day, for example. All these
"holidays" become so commercial.
It doesn't come from the heart. It comes from the mind (should). If you truly care for a person, you don't need a particular day to show appreciation and you won't make it a day filled with expectations either.
Your locus of control is, thus, external.
And you will be so busy trying to fix, control and secure an outcome, i.e. certain treatments from others, or you'll be majorly upset!
Is it fun to live like that?
I bet no.
Thus, what is neediness? Neediness is selfish at its core to begin with but needy people think it's the other person who is selfish. Hence neediness is a sign that one needs to care about oneself more and embrace one's selfish side. Once you
realize that you're just as selfish as the next person next door, you stop judging others for their selfishness which is a mere projection of your own selfishness.