The dreaded V-day is tomorrow. And apparently for many women V stands for VALIDATION.
That's sad if you need a day to feel validated of your worth.
Are you feeling extremely delicate already in anticipation of tomorrow?
Why are you
doing this to yourself? Especially if you expect a full V-day treatment from a non boyfriend. You see how foolish that is?
Yes your EUM is your non-bf. A guy who says you're exclusive but sees you once every 2 weeks is a non bf. A guy who doesn't card to keep in touch most days of the week isn't your bf either.
A bf is what a bf does. Do you hear me?
Talk less. Communicate more with your energy. But unless you're
conversant with my teachings, you won't even know what that means.
What you hear out there is mostly junk advice. Most of these "experts" don't have a clue what they're talking about cause they're in the dark themselves about what makes a great relationship cause their own stuff is in the way. What you have here is the real deal because the teacher has arrived to the blissful equanimity, the all-encompassing centeredness. She has done her
work.
So she can teach the same to others.
Listen up, if he hasn't shown much love/attention throughout the year or the entire time you're "together" what he does on Valentine's Day is IRRELEVANT. It's inconsequential. So to put yourself in this precarious position to expect a special treatment tomorrow is a set up for
extreme heartsick.
What do flowers do one day of a year if you don't spend much time with him the rest of the time anyway? It's total BS.
You have your priority totally skewed.
But maybe you have to experience this so you can hit your rock bottom because most people need it to change their ways.
So instead of expecting anything from a lukewarm guy (who is now even more scared by the
expectations of this day), just let go of this notion that Valentine's Day needs to be anything special already.
It. Is. Just. Another. Day.
Let a guy come up with his own ideas of how to treat you on this day and be very gracious and grateful when he does something special. Don't make it an obligation to him. Love is freeing.
And if he's not even fully in yet, accept that he's perhaps not going to
be in the mood to lead you on or to be mandated to be extra romantic.
To expect that is a set up for huge disappointment, obviously. So why do you do that to yourself?
Your worth isn't linked to any day of the year. Your worth is something you realize within yourself.
So, , instead of relying on external source for validation why don't you gift yourself a path
to cultivate self-validation? Maybe treat yourself for a Valentine's special treatment by investing in your personal growth.
The offers are valid till February 15 at
midnight PT.
