We had such a great time last weekend at the retreat. There are a lot of breakthroughs that the ladies experienced. Some came with lots of baggage and mental blocks and were just blossoming to become beautiful butterflies in 3 days. By the end of the weekend they embraced
the
softened version of themselves.
More relaxed. More self-accepting and less judgmental. More surrendered. More joyful and serene.
We don't know when
out next one yet -or where- but just bookmark the retreat page below:
And today I want to talk about rebounding men. So many of you
come to me or
the group being hooked on a guy who just got out of a relationship/long marriage or sometimes is still married and yet has to finalize his divorce.
In many of the cases the relationships with the exes aren't truly over yet because breakups are rarely clear cut. There will always be
residual feelings around the old relationships and the exes. The ties aren't fully severed yet.
And meanwhile you're already knee deep in your attachment to him. You have everything to lose and as such your neuroses are running the show muddying up the water even further.
It's not that he can't fall for you or he won't be with you when the dusts settle, it's about you not being able to respond to the situation in a measured and mature
way that inspires him to bond to you faster and fall so deeply in love with you thanks to your high-value groundedness. I have actually helped many clients deal with
their rebounding men who got cold feet and some of them are now
married to the said men (
one of them becomes a family as I'm their first son's god mother).
So what is rebounding and why is it called rebounding? If you imagine a ball being dropped, what
does it do upon hitting the ground? It's bouncing back up, isn't it?
So imagine someone who just hits rock bottom through the sudden or not-so-sudden end of their dreams. He's like that ball hitting a rough ground...his whole system is in complete shock from the sudden crash.
He's totally confused and in that unstable process to gain his center back by bouncing a few times perhaps before coming to his new
center.
He's bouncing up now (before going down again eventually) and with it he brings all his baggage that comes from the previous relationship. If his wife/gf is a controlling woman, he'll be super sensitive to the same trait in the new women he comes across.
If his wife/gf cheats on him, he'll be super suspicious of the same trait in you.
Bottom line is he's in the process of healing himself and
is not in a good place to jump in a new relationship because his judgment is way off and his emotions are all over the place. Often time he's depleted emotionally so he's in no good place to fulfill your emotional needs. How can he when he's unable to give to himself emotionally either?
He's doubting himself and his feelings. And just a little perceived pressure coming from you is enough to send him running for the
hills.
And you are left broken hearted and anxious....simply because you don't understand what's going on. And your expectations and sense of lack are in the way for him to process his unresolved feelings.
So, our next class in the
monthly membership tomorrow, Saturday at 3 pm EST will be: "What Is A Rebound and How To Date Rebounding Guys Safely While He's Processing His Unfinished Business And Boil Him In The Process."
If you are in this predicament like the hundreds that come to me, you really can't afford to miss this class.
Sign up for this
class only ($87) or month to month ($77 with minimum of 2 months). I will have to hike the price again soon so be grandfathered in current rate.
My
classes are highly affordable (based on the instantaneous results they bring) as well as enlightening and a small dosage of them is enough to catapult you into Goddesshood and many actually get hooked and keep coming back for more month after month and year after year.
I become their personal counselor in the matter of life and relationship issues because they know whatever their situations are I'll be able to give a very intuitive reading into what's actually
happening and prescribe a definite cure to them.
Don't make the mistakes millions of women every single day and be that one wise smart woman who knows how to deal with any type of guys while enjoying being adored and cherished.
I am the Last Resort when everything else under the sun has failed.
