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Third, I want to talk about why relationship becomes hard over time when the
honeymoon period is over, when we are no longer helped by the falling-in-love chemical abundant in the first few months or years of the relationship, especially in the very beginning.
When we first started dating, we seem to have a better understanding of our partner or more willingness to understand or care about our partner's feelings and concerns, right? Then a few years into the relationship, sooner or later we begin to lose our patience more readily over our
partner's recurring annoying theme.
We're less willing to hear them out or put their needs first. We're back to be majorly concerned with our own pity-me stories and we expect them to care about ours first before we care about theirs, correct?
And next thing you know you argue more and you get fed-up more easily with their mood swings. We often feel contemptuous of them as well which of course doesn't help them to want to
come closer to us or to be less moody.
So you two drift apart. There is more silence between you two now because each time you open your mouths the other perceives contempt.
They tell us we are attacking them and aren't accepting them as they are. We think it's the same old BS they impose on us because they're too hung up in their own sob stories.
Or vice versa.
Bottom line is
this thing is inevitable in every relationship, without exception.
It's a struggle between not tolerating bad/toxic behaviors and accepting your partner as the person that they are with their personality, quirks and issues.
Everyone (those who aren't awakened yet) lives with their own conception of self. So after the honeymoon is over everyone including yourself has to go back living with the "I" they have known all their
lives.
If you think you aren't a cool person you have to go back dealing with that story of how uncool you are and the resulting negative emotions that come with it.
If you think you aren't that smart, that beautiful, that successful you have to cope with that as well.
You will go back to beating yourself up and make yourself feel so miserable in the process that it affects your relationship. It affects
your emotional capacity to be a great partner to your significant other. How can you be a great partner when you don't feel great about yourself more often than not?
So clearly, to be happy in a relationship with others, you first have to be happy with your relationship with YOURSELF!
The nature of the ego (which in summary simply means a collection of I-stories that are based on PAST EVENTS) is always going to be self-preoccupations
and self-preservations. We perceive others including our partner through the lens of these preoccupations that will always lead to one thing and one thing only: how the "I" has been slighted and why it has to hate, loath or be resentful to the other person who clearly is the cause of this pain and hurt (cause they're not understanding enough, not patient enough, not accepting enough, not loving and respectful enough, etc, etc).
So when your "I"
collides with your partner's "I" the only way out is to expand your awareness so you stop projecting your broken "I" unto your partner.
Thus, when you realize this about everyone on earth, you will stop taking things personally and project your own I stories unto others.
That is FREEDOM, my friend. I'm living it. I no longer live life with any story about myself. That is the pinnacle of emotional
health.
That is the main purpose of relationship. It might not happen in this lifetime for the vast majority of people, sadly, but now that you have found the living, breathing example of such altitude, you can also aspire to that.
And that is my role as a coach, to awaken you to the reality of the illusory "I" that you have identified yourself with all your life. It's the matrix you live in that defines how you see the
world out there, so yes in return it defines your reality.
Your reality isn't going to be the same as everyone's reality.
It's like the sequel of the first module Journey Inward. Your partner is also a partner in growth so unless you grow together you will grow apart and the relationship will run its course in due time.
The goal is not to make relationship work at all costs. The goal is to grow to your highest potential within that relationship with the help of your partner and sometimes one in the partnership grows faster and higher
than the other so the relationship lags behind with the faster growing partner losing attraction for the slower one.
That's when the relationship runs its course cause it's running out of gas. The faster growing partner has learnt everything they need to learn within the relationship and they're done and ready for the new chapter and the new lessons.
I'm sure you perhaps have been in that situation before, right? And it might happen
again with this current relationship.
Your job is just to observe of these phenomena within yourself and your relationship and bring awareness to what's happening without any preconception one way or another.
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