"Hi ladies, I wanted to share that Kat's method absolutely works. I've spent a couple of years with her and her programs. Though I am not in a relationship right now (my EUM broke up with me 6 months ago due to religious differences), I do have to say that I have learned so much from her and can attest and proud of how I handled my relationship with him when we were together.
This man who went from being only interested in casual fun, to me awakening his true desires of wanting a relationship. I really do believe that I was a light healer to him, unfortunate that we couldn't be together (I believe he still has some deep seated issues as well as our religious differences). I can truly say though that I had one of the most tender relationships with him and he treated me with care. I'm grateful for the experience I had with him, and
hope this will be my last post about him as I'd like to close that chapter and let go fully, so that I can welcome a new chapter ahead of me.
I wanted to share some tips on what worked for me and based on reading some of what the other ladies are having a hard time with.
1) Leaning back - I knew my EUM was definitely into me, because I never needed to reach out or ask him for dates. He initiated 98% of the relationship from taking me out, setting up dates, thinking ahead for plans, scheduling things, texting me, calling me. Because of this reason, I didn't have to question whether he was into me or not. I suggest that if you're not sure, please go for the man who shows you full interest so that you don't have to question. This
doesn't mean I didn't initiate here and there, but I usually only did that when I wasn't feeling any insecurities or neediness.
2) Neuroses - when these occurred, I often kept to myself. This means when i was feeling insecure, anguish, or anxious - I often tried to make sure that I first and foremost 1-felt my emotions, 2-try not to react, 3-talked through it myself and with my friends if I needed to vent. This doesn't mean you have to be stoic, it means recognizing your feelings first and trying to understand them before you react on them, or project them on someone else.
3) Firm boundaries and sharing feelings - when men test you, and they will (considering from a healthy guy of course - unconsciously from time to time), I definitely made it known to him my boundaries, the type of man I saw myself being with, and openly shared my feelings and vulnerabilities. There is nothing wrong with showing this, but it must be done in a soft way, in which you are not projecting onto him or blaming him, but showing your value and worth and
stating the type of man you feel you want to be with (I say this because I gave him an idea of the king I saw myself with and allowed him to prove himself and to step into that role instead of demanding it from him). This will alleviate the pressure on him. You cannot change or demand something from someone, but you can inspire them.
4) Focus on the positives - i realized with almost every relationship be it man or woman, people melted around me when I showed them their OWN good side. If you point out someones bad side, you're asking them to also focus on the negative. Focus on the positives, and be the light in which it inspires those around you to see a better them, and like a mirror, a better you.
And you're probably asking why am I writing all this and still seeing this as a good thing? Like the way I showed him how much he wanted a relationship also, he also reminded me and brought out my own femininity and goddess beauty. I am now ready for the right person to come into my life and prepared for him.
Saying goodbye to my EUM finally. And I leave you with my tips from what worked. Thank you Kat and ladies!
Lots of love and light!" ~Lindy, Ohio
