So if you're in Jakarta, Bogor or surrounding area (or even Singapore) and wants to meet me for a one-day intensive, respond to this email.  I'll be available till 24th.  It's $3,500 investment that includes breakfast and lunch in a 5 star hotel and involves 7 hours of coaching that will give you definite solutions to your pressing love/life issues.

 

Now let's move on the juicy subject of today's newsletter.

 

Recently there is a heated discussion in the free FB group about whether or not it's a great idea to rotate till you get a ring (add yourself to the group if you want to follow the thread).

 

Most of you know my position on rotation that it's a MUST if you want to safely navigate the uncertainty of modern dating the first few months or even year.  However you drop it when it becomes clear that cream has risen on top which means one of the guys has shown through his words and actions that he claims you.

 

You follow his lead cause he's proven himself to worth your salt and surrender and trust in the process.  That's how a mature, secure, well-adjusted and healthy adult will treat the courtship process.

 

Some coaches though will advise you to give him a "non-girlfriend speech" and continue to rotate till you get a ring which is a VERY BAD advice.  Very bad that I'm surprised that any so-called expert will propagate it (and I have repeatedly said I'm not a fan of the lousy state of relationship coaching online cause most of these coaches are really that BAD hence starting this year I launched my own Coach Certification Program).  It shows how shallow they are and little understanding of the male psyche and human nature they possess.

 

The same coaches like most coaches will uniformly teach to set up boundaries before inner work cause most of them are former doormats themselves so their first instinct is to run the other way.  These coaches aren't centered yet hence their pendulums still swing from one extreme to the other hence their advice often misses the mark.  They can only help you to the extent of their own personal growth, obviously.

 

They don't know that before you can talk about boundaries, you need to look inside first if you are happy and full within yourself. If you are not, most things will violate your "boundaries" and they are actually more neuroses than boundaries. They are actually baggage and issues you need to heal within yourself.

 

Hence what happens is the rampant case of the blind leading the blind.  And I often receive the leftovers of bad coaching they leave behind: fixing the mistakes they made that caused their clients's relationships to go from bad to worse.

 

But don't worry cause you have arrived at the Last Resort.  I have many times over saved relationships most unlikely to be saved based on my vision 20/20.  I can see in complete clarity the roots of every relationship and life problems/issues because there is no more self (I-stories) in me.  This kind of clarity is extremely rare in the world in any counseling profession.

 

When you show up a diva in dating with so many boundaries you set, you will naturally attract the kind of men who will match that alpha energy: beta men.  Yeah these men will be so attracted to your "strong self-confidence" because they possess the opposite of that energy which is feminine.

 

So no sex before commitment?  Sure, these beta orbiters will be more than happy to wait around for years to get in your pants or give you what you want in a heartbeat to get in your pants. They have very few options with women, that's why.

 

And no netflix and chill or couch dates the first 3 months?  Absolutely, they'll take you out to expensive dinner each time if they have money and they'll even bring you flowers each time.

 

And no exclusivity before the ring?  Oh no problem, sweetheart, how many carats do you want your diamond to be?  Whatever you want, I'm at your disposal.

 

But seriously, is this the kind of man you're attracted to and want to be with for the rest of your life?  

 

Unfortunately, most of you are attracted to the bad boy types who are elusive and not acting like a doormat with you.  Most women, truly, want the masculine alpha guys and these men aren't marching to your drum.  These men will be gravitated toward feminine and more submissive women who fill follow their lead.

 

And you in fact tend to be so irritable with these overly nice men.  You just can't respect them enough cause their balls aren't as big as yours (oops).

 

Correct, they're not attracted to divas aka demanding pushy alpha women.  Don't let any amateurish coach tell you otherwise.

 

And these men will take their time before committing because commitment isn't a laughing matter to them. Don't you want to know as well that the man you marry is going to be the kind of man you can and want to spend the rest of your life with? So why not surrender to the process? As it's as important to him as it is to you?

 

Clearly this kind of low EQ and manipulative advice is made for women who have nothing to be proud of and happy about in their lives other than getting hitched no matter to whom or what.

 

And another stupid advice they dispense is you can rotate and be monogamous with the guy you expect the ring from (your main rotation guy whom you gave the non-girflriend speech to). Huh?

 

Tell me which morons will continue investing in a woman knowing they have been friendzoned?  Right, beta dudes with no back bones and self-esteem.

 

And why would you string these poor guys along? Do you realize how useless, dysfunctional, impractical and out-of-touch this advice is?

 

So the teachings of these "Diva Coaches" are magnets for you to attract beta males. More power to you if that's what you like and want as many women are in fact not made for masculine men.

 

So if you want a guy who leads, be easy to lead instead of start making a laundry list of demands and being confrontational by telling them how they screw up left and right so pick your battles. 

 

But, you protest, I use the "I statement."  It doesn't matter cause you still come across a ball buster that is hard to please.  Alpha men want nice women (their polar opposite) just like you are attracted to non-"nice guys" cause they feel masculine to you.

 

Nice = sweet = agreeable = yes girl = soft boundaries = feminine.

 

Divas = JLo = alpha = no girl = hard boundaries = masculine.

 

Get it?

 

If you want an alpha man you have to be a beta woman.  There is no way around this.  There can only be one alpha in the relationship: it's either you or him.  

 

 

I produce the most engagements in the business, hands down cause I understand the principle of polarity like no other!

 

Don't believe me?  Here's #53, 54, 55 and 56 this year.

 

And do you want to know what we discussed during the recently finished Bali retreat?  You have a chance to listen to it for FREE when you sign up for the fan subscriptions.  There are 13 hours of recordings of live streaming valued at $499 that will expire on November 30 on top of 45 hours of previous satsangs/classes.  So how many hours of total teaching will you get to listen upon signing up???  58 hours!!!  Yes 58 freaking hours.  All for $99/month and you can cancel anytime.

 

Here's what Lisa who's been in the subscriptions since day 1 says about the program and Bali retreat recordings: "There’s a little journey inward/mindset/thoughts regarding programming and lots of intelligent pertinent questions ... honestly the fan subscription has been worth every penny for me and I’ve been in it from start now at a cost of £3 a day .. cheaper than a sandwich at work and much more mind/body/spirit nourishing!"

 

Any more reason why you're actually losing money if you're not there?  The longer you wait to heal your neuroses the longer you stall every aspect of your life including career and business (that's how you're losing money by delaying your success).

 

 

Last but not least, we just started the Follow My Process Coach Certification Program again with the 2nd class last Saturday. We're still on Module 1 in which we're dissecting every case under the sun that you need to diagnose and solve.  Relationship coaching is a hairy business so I want to make sure you're not like these coaches who destroy rather than save relationships.  Respond to this email so you can speak to me for 20 min through Skype so I can answer all the questions you have about this program.

 

The first quarter I'll assess your level of understanding of my teachings and methodology.   So yeah I will continuously point out your blind spot during the year long program so even when you don't want to be a relationship coach the benefits of being expanded is going to get you far in life and whatever profession you choose to do.

 

And don't forget, Ireland retreat that will take place on April 14-18 at Castle Leslie is also included in the program which means you just have to pay a fraction of the retreat fee for room and meals (at cost) and flights.  The location itself is nothing short of MAGNIFICENT.  This is the place in which my 11 future coaches will sharpen their coaching skills with the help of non-coach participants so since 18 is the maximum space we have for the retreat, we really only have about 7 spots left for those who aren't in the Follow My Process Coach Certification Program.

 

In other words, unless you hurry spots will be disappearing fast and currently we have $700 OFF.  So respond to this email as well if you want to talk about this opportunity and the monthly plans that you can afford up to 6 months.