Here's a post by Kristina as shared in the group on her progress:  "Work in progress post:

Last time I posted Katarina called me out on being reactive. So this is what I have been working on.

EUM turned boyfriend and it’s been almost 2 months. After his initial freak out, he has consistently stepped up. Here are examples of leaning back, working on being patient and less reactive and how it works in our favor:

-His birthday was the other week, he was meant to stay at mine but got so drunk his friends took him home. The next day he called, came over super early, said he felt awful about it and brought me flowers. I said “it’s fine! It was your bday, it’s perfectly acceptable to get too drunk. I wasn’t mad at all!” (I truly wasn’t). He said, I know your ex was an alcoholic and you had to deal with him drunk and I never want to do that to you.

- Last night we were meant to attend a fundraising event together. He cancelled last minute because of a family issue. I was so disappointed and upset as we hadn’t seen each other all week. But I kept the emotion and expectations to myself. I told him I understand and went out and had a blast by myself. He was so apologetic and text me all night making sure I got home safe etc. Today he calls and says he's taking me out, he’s booked a table for dinner at a gluten free place (aw!) and he’s so excited to see me.

- We met nearly a year ago and he has been making plans for that date as well as mentioning plans for valentine's day. I keep my mouth shut, I don't care what we do. No expectations.

So ladies there ya go. And this is with me *still* being slightly reactive and emotional sometimes because I am working on these things. I have trust issues too but these are MY issues. The results are clear. Let him be. Let him take control. He said the other day that this was the easiest relationship he’s ever been in.

I work on ME because it’s the only thing I can control.

If I was to speak up, complain, text/call, accuse, play detective (and trust me- I want to sometimes) every time I felt emotional or rejected or had too many expectations - I would sabotage this so quickly.

And I have discovered this revelation which keeps my anxiety at bay: if anything was to happen and it doesn't work out, yes I will be sad and miss him but I WILL BE OK. Because I am full with or without him."

Every day I read your posts  or emails on how you react on insignificant things cause you need validations (your ego is in the way). As many have you have learnt the hard way, it is in fact when you soften your boundaries you begin to get everything you ever wanted. These guys seem to want to give and do more for you when you stop being a demanding diva who constantly feels hurt for no good reason.

This is why my method has been ASTONISHINGLY successful with daily testimonials to prove it (I post them on my FB page every day).

In this light, you don't want to miss this class tomorrow at 3 pm EST "How To Soften Your Boundaries So You Become Non Reactive And Irresistible" as a part of my monthly membership.  This is a very important class because as mentioned by Kristina above (her case is very common actually), I'm going to discuss on why your relationship gets stagnant when you focus on establishing boundaries instead of expanding your conception of self that includes stuff that triggers you.

Problem with many relationships is when one expects the partners to be doing a certain thing or not doing a certain thing in the name of boundaries.  It introduces unnecessary bumps that really don't make a difference in the long run.

Most successful relationships are really between two people who accept each other as they are and allow each other to be who they are. This proves to be difficult for many women thanks to their insecurities, expectations and skewed view on boundaries. They set to change and tweak their partners instead.

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