My story: 2 years ago I moved from vegas to Austin, 23 yrs old. I'd never had a serious bf (and was still a virgin) mainly because I just couldn't get guys to want me long term. I was the Queen of chasing and convincing. 

I moved into a house with two guys, renting a room in their house. LONG story short, me and one of my roommates, I'll call him M, ended up being very attracted to each other. I fell so hard for him. I liked him SO much. Eventually I lost my virginity to him. 

Afterwards, I got very emotionally anxious, attached, needy, possessive, clingy, etc. 

I expected a relationship and feelings to follow just because we were hooking up. We were still roommates, so I'd sleep in his room every night, basically wishing he was my boyfriend. He'd even warned me he wasn't looking for a relationship! After I bought gifts for his mom and sister (cringe) he ended our little fling. 

His exact words were 'I think you got attached too quickly.'  Did I mention we were still roommates? 

God, it was such an emotional hot mess. I look back at that girl I was 2 years ago and can't believe my behavior. I had ZERO self esteem. Zero. I begged him, cried all the time, tried convincing, etc etc etc. 

The next month I moved out, after telling my parents what a mess I was in. I was SEVERELY depressed. I just could NOT understand why M didn't want a relationship with me. I'd analyze pics of his ex and think I'm so much prettier, why doesn't he want me? I was so heartbroken. 

Fast forward a few months, and M reached out to me as a friend, and we reconnected as friends. The attraction was still there though on both sides. We made out one night, and he said he did care about me, but 'I'm not ready for a relationship.' 

Then, I made the biggest mistake of my life (which taught me so much!) I agreed to become friends with benefits, no strings attached. He said are you SURE that's what you want, just FWB?  I lied to him, but worse I lied to myself. 

Our FWB phase was about 4/5 months. We would hook up, and I would just feel so awful. I've never been able to have emotion free sex, and I just felt so fake pretending this casual, no strings thing was what I wanted. 

In January 2014 he ended it because he said he could feel me getting attached, and he knew I wanted more but he just couldn't give me more. Yup, I was devastated. But I knew it was all my own fault, bc I never could handle FWB and I knew it. This time I started reading books on self esteem, and reading lots of stuff about how men think and what makes men want to commit. 

I read The Rules, and it really helped me. Six months passed with us no contact.  In June 2014 we saw each other thru friends, and he started pursuing me. I always believed he really did like me because he always initiated things. I was stronger, and it showed, because he started asking me out on proper dates! It was great smile emoticon he was being really sweet. 

HOWEVER, the Rules did confuse me a lot, because I really did think that if I followed every single Rule, I'd get the guy. 

I made him pick me up for every date, and I refused to hang out with him unless it was a 'proper date'. I wouldn't see him basically unless he took me somewhere nice and paid. Once we got in a fight because he said he felt like I didn't care about HIM, I just wanted him to take me to nice places. 

My too strict adherence to the Rules pushed him away, because basically I was coming across as sort of a demanding, hard to please gold digger. We fell apart frown emoticon he gave me some BS excuse about 'I need to stay single' BUT he did cry when we broke up, and said he wished it could've worked, and he seemed so sincere. He seemed so truly sorry it didn't work out that.....I wanted to get him back. 

He'd always been a good guy to me, and I believed we had a special connection. ......this is when I FOUND KAT!!!!!!  I read her book, all her blogs, studied EVERYTHING. I also found coaches who teach similar stuff to hers, and I ate it up. 

I was AMAZED at everything I learned. I just REALLY clicked with Kat's philosophy. 

I feel like the Rules are too strict and too expectation centered, just because we follow them, doesn't mean we get the guy! And they don't explain enough about what makes men want to commit, or anything about polarity in attraction. Kat's stuff is better! 

Fast forward to November 2014. He saw me at a bar, and then that night started texting, saying how pretty I looked. Then things led to us talking about why it hasn't worked out. He said he felt like I was just using him to go on super fancy dates, and that I just wanted a rich guy, and didn't care about the real him, and that's why he'd ended it. 

I now felt STRONG thanks to Kat, and I leaned back. He continued texting and calling me all through December. We started hanging out, and I made sure to thank him when we went on dates, but I also RELAXED majorly and let him know I was ok with just chilling at home too. Things were going really well. I did let him know that I could never ever do FWB again, and that's not who I am, and I can't handle emotion free sex. 

So....in February 2015 we agreed that we are dating each other exclusively. I joined this group. I try to let him initiate most all texts and plans. I'm taking it day by day, and not thinking about the future at all. I don't want to pressure him or scare him. 

Yesterday he sent me a text that said 'I like sleeping next to you. :)' 

It's going really well, and it is mainly thanks to KATARINA PHANG!!!! Leaning back, having amazing self esteem, NOT having expectations, letting the man set the pace, not stressing about the future, and being a happy, anxiety free girl WORKS!!!!!!! 

I just really want other women to know that you CAN change, and Emotionally Unavailable men can change too, but only if YOU do the inner work! I look back at my former self and can't believe I ever acted like that. I never want to go back to that!

My story is PROOF that you CAN transform yourself from a sad desperate fearful needy girl, to a self confident woman. I really hope things continue to go well for M and I. Thank you Kat :) xo" 

Your expectations are why your relationships have always been so hard.   Expectations, other than the mother of all sorrow, are also the worst kind of vinegar.

So how can you melt his heart if your energy is as sour as vinegar?

My method, on the other hand, teaches you BALANCE.  You are sweet and understanding and so filled with self-love that you are not a doormat.  Yet any man can't help noticing what a calming effect you have on him!

That is what makes him connect emotionally to you.

That is how he falls so deep for you he can't get out.

You think, "Heck if I don't set my standards high, he will mistreat me."  I hear that all the time but fact is your stance of wanting to control and secure an outcome is a repellent.  You are easily upset and you are reactive as the result.  Who wants to sign up for a relationship with a woman who is so hard to please like that?

You can't demand love, respect and commitment.  You can only inspire them...with your energy.  This energy thing is what's missing with so many dating/relationship advice out there.  I teach this very elaborately and candidly.

How do you think I have the most engagement success stories among any coach out there?  And in celebration of that I will call this upcoming Four Components Of Melting His Heart as "The Goddess Road To Engagement Edition."  

So if you really want to study the method that actually gives results beyond a shadow of a doubt, you won't want to miss this program.

Four Components Of Melting His Heart 

It's still $50 off, but price will go up when it starts on April 25, like all my programs.  And you'll get to hear from some of the ladies who got the ring this year how they did it.

And another class you won't want to miss is this coming Sunday at 3 pm EST.  I will teach you the ultimate way relating to a man in a way that sees you as an exception.  This class is very important because I will delve further into what Cherry is talking about: why most women don't get the guy.  The Rules and all these other rules/strategies you read out there are based from the place of wanting to control and it will never work with men.  Never ever.  

Only your softness and non reactiveness will do the trick.

So sign up for this monthly membership and enjoy this upcoming class: "How To Lure With Honey When What You Want To Do Is To Kick Him In The Balls."  With only $57/month you get to work closely with me implementing my miraculous method that has given birth to 8 engagements this year alone.  You can cancel anytime.

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And of course if you hesitate to read my book, please start there right now!  It's going to be the best investment you'll ever make as far as your love life is concerned.  You get to work closely with me and that is a privilege cause you won't find this offer anywhere else and my time is getting more and more limited thanks to my success. 

So get it here:

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Love,

​Katarina