Hi ,

Mingalabar!  That’s Myanmarese word for hello or good day.  I’m taking my parents on an Irrawaddy river cruise and they’re having the time of their lives.

It’s also a great time for me to spend time with my parents since our style of relationship is we barely talk to each other when I’m back in LA, not out of lack of love for each other but we just never had that much to talk about even when I was growing up.  Last year I took them to China.  This year Myanmar and Cambodia.

My mom was a pretty detached mother but the funny thing is I grew to really adopt her detached style and yet when we’re together she has this tendency to mother like most mothers do.

They can't help themselves.

And maybe you even do too without realizing it… so I’d like to talk about this mothering thing in this email.

So she has this thing…of always wanting to hand around in my room when I’m doing my thing like having a shower, getting dressed or just getting ready.  It feels like she’s breathing over my neck.  She would start folding my clothes, putting away my stuff, helped me packing, etc while I’d much rather her wait somewhere else or do something else but not in my room.  In China, the first second the wake up call rang (usually very easy like 5 or 6 am) she would knock at my door.  Every day like clock work.

It got annoying at times….as if she was waiting outside my door trying to eavesdrop if the phone rang so she could knock on time lol…  And I would open the door and have her get busy “mothering” me while I was barely awake and trying to get ready.

I have grown to like my me-time and independence.  I love space, if you haven’t already noticed yet lol…

I love her to death, don’t get me wrong, so I never said anything.  I thought I would miss this one day so why not enjoy her now?

My point is this…when you do this to a guy, he will feel the exact same way I feel with my mom.  You follow him around like a sick puppy, trying to clean his living space, to cook for him (before he’s your bf), to organize his things, solve his problems for him …you get the drift.  It feels like what his mother does to him and is why he’s not living with her!

It’s annoying and it’s disruptive.

I’d like to walk around naked after the shower in my room but I can’t cause she’s there (and with the extra weight I have gained I don’t need to hear how much weight I have gained!).

So when you have this tendency with guys and you think you’re being considerate and nice, think again.  You are turning him off.  This is one of the reasons guys stop talking or having sex with you, cause you have depolarized yourself by acting like his mother.  Showing how much you care for a guy before he shows it first (including giving or buying him stuff before he does it to you) is an example of mothering and why it’s a turn off, contrary to what we think.  Asking a guy to call/text us when he arrives safely somewhere is what a mother would do as well.

Pretty counterintuitive, isn’t it?

So stick with me to learn stuff that really works with men.  And if you haven’t already, invest in my ebook to work closely with me.  My method is the ultimate way of getting a guy and keeping him attracted as long as you live.  Thousands have experienced profound transformation though my teaching.  And at least 37 engagements -that I know of- have been produced since the publication of the book in late 2012  (25 this year alone!)

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One of the ladies, Lori, who is no.24 on the string of engagement success stories said this about her personal transformation that she gained through my ebook and being in the FB support group:

"He asked me to marry him while we were on vacation. :)  Kat,  I owe you SO much.  I never thought I would marry again at this stage of my life.

He had asked my 14 year old son if he could and planned it while we were on vacation. I'm honored he put the young man in my life as part of it. 

I promise the only way I got here us by fully following Kat’s advice. Letting go of my own thinking and just doing what the hell she says. If she says let go then do it. If she says no expectations then have none. It makes a huge difference. Let him lead. And care less than he does.

I used to go through tragedies strong but I had resentment anger and bitterness. Poor little why me syndrome. Truth is we all have shit to deal with and how you go through it shows your character. 

Never cling to a man. Let the right man choose you. Even if you're in love, if it ain't working it ain't gonna get better. You can't do anything about that. Just let go and let the universe be in charge.

Kat, I fully support all you teach. I have been here a while and do think my greatest quality in being here is being receptive... I fully realize whatever I've done in the past wasn't working.... So I needed to do something else. I tend to be a coddler and don't like the harshness personally but I know women need it. Every time I hear the harsh words it makes me think. I had to hear harshness to get over my own expectations. I thought I didn't have any but was triggered by the hard words about expectations. Turns out I had a lot of expectations and changing them has made ALL the difference... I thank you for that Katarina. I followed other coach's advice on using feeling messages and found myself at the same place many were before finding you. It sounded good but didn't work. 

I've got to say with my recent engagement, if you follow Kat and trust her ways, it works like nothing else. I'm blessed to be here.

If you're strong in yourself and believe in positive outcomes.... Live with no fear of anything, even bad situations...... Accept or reject. These are profound life principles.

The other thing is many of us are DEEP into codependency... I was, for one. Supporting dysfunction and coddling those who are doing wrong is the definition of codependency. I am no longer codependent thanks to my time here. And when someone asks me how I stopped being codependent, I tell them about Kat….

I think there are really profound things that are deep in Kat’s teachings that are very zen. More than just the rotation and leaning back stuff. Other coaches do that. But the idea of having NO expectations is genius. It's the key to being happy in the moment. Not enough talk goes into that cause it's hard to do. But it IS the key to finding happiness with the moment. Softening boundaries is also genius. Let the man step up who wants you. Fully let go of all control and let life happen as its meant to be.... Profound joy and happiness at the core."

Thousands are experiencing profound transformation through my work and being a part of my enlightened community and you can too. All it takes is a small investment in my ebook to turn your life around (you get to actually work closely with me with a very small investment) and be a part of my growing enlightened community. You can pick the one with 20-min Skype coaching and that will be enough to get you going (my words are very powerful and they will sink into your brain).

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Love,

Katarina